Sunday, October 24, 2010

Campus Visit



I drove up to East Lansing to visit my daughter at Michigan State University. She is in her junior year there and it's hard to believe even that much time has gone by. The trees along the roads and on campus were still bright, but this time of year they are starting to fade and drop their leaves. The weather was overcast and a bit melancholy.

On Saturday we shopped at quilt and antique stores and sat at the Dairy Store on campus and ate ice cream out of waffle cones while we listened to a radio broadcast of the last few minutes of the football game, which they won in a nail-biter.

Sloan drove me around campus through all the twisting and winding roads lined with stately buildings both modern and historic until I was throughly confused. I only really know how to get to her two former dorms, which I tried to visit as often as I could, and now to her house off campus.

Sloan stayed with me at the hotel on campus and we had nice talks at a leisurely pace. I know these kinds of visits are few and far between since we both live hectic lives. But I cherish the time we have together.

I hope she'll look back on these days at college with fondness, and remember her old mom who comes for the occasional visit and is trying so hard to let her grow up!

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Golden Afternoon


I sat on a bench at North Lake Park and looked out over the water. It was the kind of autumn afternoon that I loved. The summer heat was gone, but it was not yet too cool. The trees that rimmed the small lake were turning shades of yellow and orange here and there, but it was still too early to see the real color, which would peak a week or two from now.

I stretched my legs on the bench, closed my eyes and took a deep breath. I was at this park on a mellow, golden afternoon for a reason. I was stuck on a writing project and thought coming to this quiet place would help me work it out.

Near the shore, moving around the base of the cattails were several mallard ducks; the males with their iridescent green heads and the females a drabber brown. They were letting out a series of quacks and I didn’t know if it was because they were chatting back and forth to each other, or if they saw me there on the bench and didn’t like me being all that close. Either way, I needed to write something about birds, so these guys were the likely candidates.

This whole year has been a challenging one for me and I was able to cope with it by writing out my feelings. But now I felt the worst of the busyness and obligations were behind me and I wanted to brush away this veil of stress and sadness and see – really see – the beauty of my favorite month; to find balance again after being lopsided for so long.

I am not a trained poet, but I like to write poems and I am writing one for every odd day in October. Here is the one I wrote on this day, at this park:

“The Show, The Center”
(mallards at North Lake Park)
He is the show,
with his shiny green head,
white collar, handsome brown vest,
but he is never very far from her;
the drab one, the quiet one.

It is clear that she is the center,
the one who creates the family,
carries on the species.
He preens his beautiful feathers,
but he knows his place.

I closed my notebook and took another deep breath while sending out a little prayer of thanks for these ducks, the park, this life I have right here, right now. When my thoughts and my days seem flighty and out of control, along comes October with its blazing beauty to ground me and clear my vision.

A flock of geese flew overhead in their traditional “V” shape against a sky so blue it nearly hurt to look at it. Oblivious to that sight, the mallards continued to swim on the deep blue water of this tiny lake concerned only with themselves and perhaps that strange human who won’t go away. I’m reminded once again of an old folk song, based on Bible verses, that has brought me much comfort this year:

To everything there is a season,
and a time to every purpose under heaven.

Monday, October 11, 2010

Autumn Wedding


Our son Max got married to his Sarah this past Saturday. The weather was absolutely beautiful, in the high 70's, and the colors of the trees were just about at peak.
I show Max here with his son, our wonderful grandson, Nolan who was the honorary best man, standing next to him is Josh, one of Max's best friends since high school. They are at the rehearsal at the church.

Max had four friends and his brother Caleb stand up for him in the wedding. Our daughter Sloan was one of the bridesmaids. The closest I came to crying during the ceremony was when all three of them were standing up in front of the church waiting for the bride. I am so proud of all of them. They are all grown up and are wonderful people in their own right. I think Tom and I had a lot to do with that, but I just find myself grateful that it worked out that way.

Leading up to the wedding I found myself often feeling sad as I thought about my Mom and the fact that she wouldn't get to see this wedding. We talked of it often in the early months of the year, and I was hoping it would give her something to look forward to as she faced her fight with cancer. Unfortunately it wasn't to be, but I wore one of her necklaces to the wedding and I know she was there in spirit too, wishing her grandson happiness as he heads into this new phase of his life.